Thanksgiving Continued

Sorry about the last one, thoughts just lost feeling and its hard for me to write without emotion.
Back to Thanksgiving, I view it as a time to be with those you both love and can't stand. There is a lot of history to this for me, and I'm sure a lot of people would agree, but I get really excited about a family gathering for a holiday or birthday because I get to catch up with those I love. Yet by the end of the event I am wondering why I even bothered to show up because all the things that I dislike about my family come back to me full-force and all I can do is swallow my thoughts with an empty expression.
But this year it was a little different in a number of ways. For starters I was with my Fiancee's family in Rochester, not my first Thanksgiving there either. They are always warm and welcoming, treating me to numerous vegetarian options and always asking if I need anything when they go out. There is a lot of history here as well, but for me it is like seeing the world through a new pair of eyes because to all of these people I am guest in their house. I know who they are, as they do me, and I have dealt with their conflicts as a mediator, but when it comes to visiting them, be it a holiday or just for a weekend in the city, they always have open arms and hearts. It got me wondering if it is on purpose or expected of them.
My family and I do the same when guests are around, well some of my family may forget this courtesy or refuses to acknowledge it. This is one of the reasons that I think my family is one of a kind, but currently off subject. The idea of hosting a guest or guests always brings out a different personality in people that normally doesn't exist. These are people that they know, and maybe trust, visiting them, and all that a host can do is smile and say 'you're welcome'. After this Thanksgiving I realized the secret to happiness during the holidays lay in being a guest at house somewhat unknown to you. I'm not talking going door to door here, just giving up a holiday with your family for someone close to you. The hospitality will always be plesant, the food will be pleanty, and the attention will be directed towards you if you commit yourself to conversation.
That being said, if you find yourself dreading this coming holiday you should consider going away from the family that knows you all too well for the family that wants to know you more.